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Finding love with just a few clicks

BY MARY SIRING
OU News Bureau

Online dating has lost much of its stigma. Many now believe that it is a good way to meet people.

Today, 15 percent of U.S. adults report that they have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps.

Online dating has jumped among adults under age 25 as well as those in their late 50s and early 60s. Sites such as Zoosk and Elite Singles are among the top, while OkCupid is rated the most popular app.

Five percent of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online. PHOTO/MARY SIRING

Christopher Goodin and Tatiyana Harris, now in a yearlong relationship, met on the MeetMe app and live in Grand Rapids.

“A lot more people are dating online,” Goodin said. “It’s convenient. You can read profiles and get to know the person before actually wasting your time.”

With online dating, interested individuals can spend time getting to know someone first and becoming more comfortable before physically meeting them.

“I didn’t have different expectations for the relationship,” Harris said. “Meeting in person was somewhat different because you already have some idea of who the person is and have talked beforehand.”

Meeting by chance or being introduced by shared friends and family are no longer the most popular ways to meet significant others. Online dating creates the chance to meet people that an individual likely never would have met.

“It was better for me because I was able to gain some idea of him and chat before,” Harris said. “Whereas if I met him in person, I might have overlooked him.”

Rebecca Brown met her boyfriend, Christopher Lane, on PlentyOfFish just over a year ago. Brown lives in Waterford and Lane lives in Royal Oak.

Christopher Lane and Rebecca Brown met using PlentyOfFish.com and recently celebrated their year anniversary. PHOTO/MARY SIRING

“I believe everything happens for a reason and Chris and I were meant to be,” Brown said. “We’re pretty opposite. I don’t feel like we would have met other than online. I have a hard time meeting men because I work in an all-female field and have never been good at the bar scene.”

There is a convenience factor to online dating, as well. Individuals can spend time getting to know people on their own time and without devoting nights out to do so.

“I don’t know if it was because we met online or if I had my guard up from my last relationship, but we were able to take it slow,” Brown said. “I had a lot going on with my life. I was in school and it worked out just fine that way.”

In a technology-driven world, online dating is gaining ground on traditional meeting locations.

“I do feel like the online scene is where you meet people,” Brown said. “I don’t feel like a lot of people know how to communicate with each other. I have to be social at my job, so I talk to strangers every day and am used to it, but a lot of people don’t.”

Technology is a huge piece of today’s world, and that piece is a part of meeting a significant other, as well.

“Online dating will be the main way to meet people in the future because of how dependent on technology we are becoming,” Brown said.

Dating apps and websites have simply taken traditional meeting places and shifted them online.

“Although online dating may seem scary, I think it’s the more preferred method of today and in my opinion, it makes things a lot easier,” Harris said. “It’s definitely possible to make a real connection over the web.

“If not for online dating, I would never have met the love of my life.”

 

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